I remember exactly when and where this happened because it was the first time my mom made me take some kind of accountability. And it hurt. She said to me Anthony, it can’t always be somebody else’s fault. My raise said when I got in trouble, I would blame someone or something else.
I was in the fourth grade, and this was the first time that I saw my own paradigm or some would say their negative cycle.
I remember my teacher called my house and I lied and told her, my mom wasn’t there. Then all of a sudden my mom picks up the phone and says boy hang up. Well, all I did was hold the button down for 3 seconds,(this is one of those old-school phones) then I lifted it up and heard my mom, saying, just hold him back from the 4th grade.
The Journey:
Before this situation, my mom would sometimes give certain rules and boundaries, but would not follow through when I didn't listen to them.
So I just knew she called the teacher and told her never mind, pass my son.
Well, that wasn’t the case. I was so scared to open my fourth-grade report card that I asked my neighbor Kevin, who I looked up to, to walk down the street with me so he could open my report card for me.
Well, Kevin opened it and said surprise you passed. I got happy knowing my mom didn’t follow through again.
Then he said, Sike, naw you didn’t pass.
Once again, I was so upset, but I couldn’t beat Kevin, so I accepted it.
But you see that didn’t stop me because I continued to blame other people and not take accountability for my actions. Figuring out ways not to listen and still get my way was something I wanted. Maybe I got that type of thinking from my family and my environment, I don’t know.
This was the first time I realized that I did deflect and argue when people would tell me something negative about myself.
But knowing this wouldn’t change anything because I didn’t know how to change anything.
All it did was make me pivot my thoughts with the same mindset. This is very dangerous at any age and I was 8 years old at this time.
This can happen to anybody.
This type of thinking created a big insecurity inside me at a young age, and it only worsened as I got older.
The Obstacle:
I know I never would’ve gotten over this obstacle of always having an excuse because I had the same characteristics In elementary school, middle school, high school, college, graduate school, and in my personal life.
Overcoming the Obstacle:
All of my thinking changed when I was spiritually, mentally, and physically in the darkest space in my life.
In this dark space, I was forced to learn about myself. I wondered how I got here. And then I realized what my mom said to me in the fourth grade. Anthony, it can’t always be everybody else’s fault. This was 18 years later I finally got what she meant.
I started pointing the finger at myself and taking full accountability for all my actions. It was weird and uncomfortable but I started to get answers. And this is the secret to how I begin to properly heal.
So that’s what I did. I started to look in the mirror on a deeper level and realized that there was a lot of ugliness that was inside of me.
So while I was in this dark space I began to read many books, like Knowledge of Self, Think and Grow Rich, different religious books, universal laws, and the understanding of mathematics. I also received teachings from many different strong male mentors.
The first book that really began my healing journey is called The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. This was one of the cheat codes. This is where I began to connect with my true self. This Ask, Believe, & Receive method in Ms. Byrne’s book actually broke down things that I was going through but didn’t understand. It was only when I began to read mind-empowering books, that I learned about what was going on inside of me.
I always thought, how could a book know me so well, and the book never met me? It has to be a deeper overstanding of this thing we call life.
The main part was that it felt like my brain had just turned on for the first time in my whole life even though I graduated college with a Bachelor's Degree of Science in Criminal Justice and I studied psychology as my minor. I was also in graduate school. But with this kind of change, none of those accomplishments mattered. And that hurt as well.
All this, helped me build a relationship with myself, my God, my ancestors, and the universe. I was now connected to a higher source but was still going through my day-to-day lifestyle.
But I was changing on the inside.
The Learning Experience:
So from 2008-2016, I was in constant battle with myself. I had to face my goliath, I had to face the Man in the mirror.
Things started to come full circle in 2016.
As I sat on my bed, I cussed God out. I said to him, you haven’t been here for me, I’ve been on my own this whole time. You know, acting out just like the fourth-grade Anthony.
But this time I did something different for the first time in my life. I spoke to myself and God most genuinely, I apologized for talking to God in such a negative manner.
Then something special happened right after I repented, there was a lightning bolt that hit my brain, not an actual lightning bolt, but spiritually and mentally this lightning bolt opened up a whole other multi-verse in my brain.
It’s like my brain was refreshed. It felt like there were walls in my brain that all opened up and there was a rush of new information that went to the center of my brain.
It was so clear where I could see past faults, which helped me with my present and prepared me for my future.
Shortly after this awakening, all of these words, paragraphs, and titles started flowing into my brain, filling my brain up to the point where I didn’t have any space to think about anything else.
I still fought for months to take any action until one day, I sat at my desk and began writing out what was stuck in my head on paper.
As I begin to write out these secret healing strategies which are in my Masterclass. it seemed like once I wrote out each thought, that same thought that was previously stuck in my head, now moved to the conscious part of my brain so I could access this information in the future. Which in turn gave me more space to continue to write out these secret healing strategies.
That’s where the book came to light.
Relate to the Audience:
I want to say this to everybody. I was just like you and I'm no different than you are. I thought I was living life and looked up in realized life was living me. You can change this by first overstanding your paradigm or negative thoughts and ideas. Then learn how to change your negative paradigm into positive thoughts and ideas. I will guide you through this process with my own secret healing strategies that are meant to bend your mind and change your perspective. This book is infused into this Family Healing Dynamics Masterclass program.
That will give you real healing.
The Aftermath:
I came out of this dark space with a clear understanding of what I HAVE to do in this world. And it’s to lead people just like you out of your dark space so you can prepare for the next healing chapter for you and your family’s life. I am no different from you. I just took the leap of blind faith. And I will give you the same healing steps in a shorter period of time. Thank you and stop thinking that you have to figure everything out on your
own. You now have help. I will see you on the other side of your pain, which is where your healing will begin.
~Love is Love~
Mr. Anthony Rose
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